Friday, October 26, 2007

Anti-chalet

So I finally wake up around 10:30pm after Mary's tenth visit (sent by my mom) to my room to wake me up (I slept at 4:00pm). I check my cell to find exactly 27 missed calls from mom, and sissy. Thank God, it was on silent mode! I change it back to general mode. I try to call mom back but I'm outta' credit, and outta' battery charge, apparently. Try to hook it up to the battery charger, but it doesn't charge. Wiggle the wire a bit, still doesn't charge. I give up, and go to shower. As soon as I leave my room, Mary pops up and sticks our house phone in front of me. "Mama", she informs me. "Inzen, shukran". Mother tells me that they're all at the chalet and that I have to go too, but I just woke up, and I'm really not in the mood to go to the chalet.



"Mama, my things are all in boxes 'cuz I'm reorganizing my room. I can't just leave them. Plus, it's too much of a hassle to get my stuff out of the boxes all just so I could go to the chalet."


"Leave them in the boxes. Just get what you need."


"Mama, I just woke up. I'm really not in the mood to go."



"We sent the driver back to get you."


"It's almost 11 o'clock and with the way he drives I'll be there by 1 o'clock."


"Mary will come with you."




"That's not what I meant. Mama, please I don't wanna' go"




"You are not staying home alone."




"Rex is loose in the yard! Nothing is going to happen!"



"Dana."



"Where are my brothers?"




"Home."




"Ok, I'll stay with them."




"No, they are coming too, only later on. You can come with your younger brother if you want."




"I don't wanna go!"




"You will."




"Fine. I'll leave in an hour."



So, I call up my younger bro.



"Hey"



"Hey"



"You finally woke up."



"Yeah"



"When are you going to the chalet."



"Not going."



"Mom says you are."



"I'm not. Are you going?"



"Yeah, but not to our chalet. I'm going with my friends."



"Cool. Can I play Halo 3 when you go."



"Sure. Listen I've got my friends here so I gotta go."



"K', bye."



"Bye."



An hour later...




"Mama, I'm not coming."




"You are not staying home alone."




"I don't wanna go to the chalet."




"Fine. Don't come. Goodbye."




"Bye."



Later on...



The phone rings and from the ringtone, I can tell that someone's at the gate. My dinner is here. I go outside to pay the dude, and get my dinner only to find that Mary, under my mother's instructions, has locked the front door, that leads to the outside. After a couple of minutes of playing hide-and-seek, I finally found Mary and handed her the money to go pay the guy and get my dinner. Just outta' curiousity I check the indoor kitchen's door (which also happens to lead to the outside) only to find that it's unlocked :/



I call up my younger brother to see if he's gone to the chalet, yet. He doesn't pick up, but a few minutes later, he shows up, in the downstairs living room.



"Mary locked the door! Mom told her to! Can you believe that?"



"I know. She locked me out. I had to come in through the kitchen."



"What is mom's deal?"



"She's just worried about you."



"I know but I'm in my own home. Plus, Rex mahdood. Mala da3y lockdown."



"You've been watching OZ..."



"Yeah, it's really, really cool!"



"I'm downloading season 5 right now."



"Right on! Inzen, when are you going to the chalet. Yalla, I wanna play Halo!"



"I'm not going. Mom told me to stay at home cuz you're staying at home, and she doesn't want you to be all alone, in the house."



"Mary is here!"



*shrugs*



"Oh. My. God! What does she think is going to happen?"



"Ask her."



"Inzen, whatev, I wanna play Halo."



"Not now. I'm watching a movie, then I'm gonna' play Halo."



"But when you're done, you're gonna' sleep! I wanna play!"



"I was supposed to be with my friends in the chalet. I'm not. So, I wanna play Halo."



"And when you're done?"



"I'll call you."



"Ok, thanks!"



"That doesn't mean you keep on calling me every 5 minutes asking me if I'm done."



"Alright, alright."



+++





While I'm watching OZ on the pc in upstairs living room, Mary shows up again with a foam mattress in tow.



"Dana...", she begins with an embarrassed grin on her face.



"Shino Mary?", I no longer have any patience.



"Mama gool ana noom intay daar.", she says apologetically.



*sigh*



Ever since we bought that fuckin' chalet I've been forced to go, every other week just because everyone else is going, and it's not "right" to leave me alone at home. Nevermind, that I'm 2 months shy of being 23 years old. Not to mention that Rex (our German Shepherd) is let loose in the yard (inside the gates) at night, every night. I can take care of myself.... which isn't even relevent because I'm at home! Nothing can or will happen to me, so long as I'm home. I mean, our neighborhood alone is uber-safe!

It's so frustrating. I don't know if my parents want to lock me in because they're actually afraid that someone might sneak in, or I might sneak out. Not that I've ever snuck out before or anything. I'm a good kid... Kid? What the fuck am I saying. I'm not even a kid anymore. Haven't been a kid in a long, long time. I'm a grown woman. I've practiced good judgement time, and time again, but unfortunately I can't tell my parents. The shit that goes down at college? Freakin' unbelievable, but I never, not even once, got involved.

I try to live my life without crossing the social limitations that have been set up by my society (even if I don't believe in them). Why? So people don't talk. If they talked about me. I'd be like"Yeah, well screw 'em.", and I'd just shrug it off. Unfortunately, if I happened to do anything beyond, such as stay out 'till a certain hour, people would not just talk about me. It would reflect back on my parents, and my family. Unfair, no? So I try to do good, mostly for my parents. In return I ask only that they trust me with some responsibility. Apparently, it's just too much to ask.

I can't sleep over at a friend's house. Even though, I've known the girl for ages, and she's only my bestfriend, and she's slept over a million times before. Nevermind, right?

I'm not allowed to leave the country with my bestfriend for a week-long vacay. Nevermind, right?

I am forbidden from setting foot anywhere near The Palms. No prob.

I have a 10:00pm curfew (occasionally yo-yo's between 9:30-10:30 depending on my behavior). Big problem. Huuuuuge. If I have a 10:00 curfew, does it really matter if I'm 10 minutes late? YES! My curfew changes to 9:30! It's not like I'm staying out 'till midnight :/ Y'know what? It ain't even my parents who ground me. It's my younger brother. My parents are old now, and very tired. Apparently, I'm too much trouble, so my younger brother (the more sensible one of the two of us, even I'll admit to that) is responsible for me. Get this, if I wanna go out, I have to ask his permission. No, seriously. Tell him where, with whom, and when I'll be back. I can't just open the door and leave. Even if I'm just going out for a drive, or to the co-op.

Ok, I was somewhat problematic way back in the day (teenage years) but I'm older now. Wiser. Way more mature. I shouldn't even have a curfew. For fuck's sake I'm 23 years old! It aint right. This not-being-able-to-stay-home-alone thing is also not acceptable. I understand the doors needing to be locked but forcing my brother to stay behind with me, and telling Mary to sleep in my room. There's something very wrong with that. Either my own mother thinks I'm going to do something terrible, or she's really afraid for me. Either way, it's uncalled for, and it's driving me into a corner. If our chalet was closer, fine. I'd make the hour-long trek but it's in Kiss-Om-ill-Dinya (translation: very, very far). I'm not always up for it. I get carsick and stuff. Like I said, I feel like I'm being cornered. No clue what to do.

11 stolen kisses:

Ra7aLaH said...

LOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOL ambeeeeeh met men il the7eek!!! grayt ur post 7ag ome ;p LOOOL ahaaam shay nomat mary ;p

The Simper said...

i wana write a LOOOL just like ra7alah.. but i don't wana mess up my O-Key :P

ohhh maaaaaaaan.. life life hheheh. walah i kept laughing :P

hehehehe nice story :P but towards the end, i lost track of colors. who is green.. who is blue.. and who is yellow.. but the story was nice and i kept smiling at the situation :)

ur describing the complex matrix of life.. parents trying to cntrol it.. but they can't control ALL.. they have to do something.. but this something that they are doing is not enuff and can't stop someone to do what they wana do if they REALLY wana do it..

but..

god bless :)

1001 Nights said...

Sometimes kids need to recall the times they hurt their parents or misbehaved to understand why their parents really want to protect them now. Look back and see what the root cause of this is and try to remember when your mom started worrying about you so much. Maybe you can have a mature CALM talk with her so that she sees that you're grown up now? But bear in mind you actually have to TALK to her regularly. If you want her to trust you include her in your life so that she knows you're not involved with the insane stuff that goes on. Merely staying at home and having a curfew doesn't mean your mom knows what's going on in your life.

Marzouq said...

When I was reading through the whole thing I pictured.. kitchen.. yard... dog.. and thats it! looool!

Sara7a i can't blame your family, because I know a lot of parents who are still like that. The responsibility of girl is more important to the family because she doesn't want anything happening to you. I know they know you are staying home because you want to watch your shows but they would be very worried. No matter how old you are, if your not married these rules won't change it will always remain that way.

Sidenote after reading the whole thing I want to play Halo 3... and if your talking about Halo 3 then say Halo 3 becauase Halo 3 is very different then the rest! lol

This Lady Says said...

We all go thru this dear! Its a tough job being a girl.
Bes wallah think about it. They only do this becoz they want to protect us, not becoz they dont trust us.

I dont read newspapers but my dad once told me that if I did, and I had kids, I would probably house-arrest them.

Don't worry, they'll get tired of this soon, and u'll get ur freedom. And trust me, its not as "WOW" as I thought it was.

Carlsb3rg said...

Ummm I don't wanna make you feel worse, but my 15 year old sister always stays home alone with no Mary nor dog ;p

Anonymous said...

That's so weird, are your parents Saudi by any chance?

Sailor said...

Prison Break Season 3 ?

Carlsb3rg said...

More like D&G's pinky girly house break season 1, starring Lindsay Lohan and Hillary Duff 'Exlusive on Nickelodeon'

Bride To-Be said...

Thats terrible .. i know how u feel ..
I've been forced to go to chalet for ages .. but thank god, lately .. we're going much less.
hang in there girl .. life is tough when ur a girl ;P

Drunk'n'Gorgeous said...

Ra7alah- lol adry 7aalty kaseefa :P

The Simper- I'm glad you enjoyed reading! I am blue. Mom is gold. My younger bro is green. Mary is red. God bless :)

1001 Nights- True. I can actually think of a 1001 times that I've misbehaved lol Thanks for the advice :)

Marzouq- Yeah but ...ma abee lol Rules suck! As for Halo 3 Inshaaalah :P

This Lady- I guess, bas it's so frustrating, y'know? :P

Carlsb3rg- lol yeah I feel much better now thanks! :P

Anon- Nope, just super-strict :(

Sailor- LMAO You offering to break me out :P

Carlsb3rg- Oi! LMAO I think of myself as all "hardcore". Don't lump me in with those girly girls! :P

Bride to-be- Thanks chica! :*